Married/Seperated

I can't even begin to describe the disdain I have for married or separated people who try (or do) cheat or date others while they are still married.  Separated = married.  No, if, ands, or buts.

When someone who is separated messages me, I politely tell them I'm not interested in married men and wish them luck.  When they message me back with some sob story about why they are not divorced, how they are almost divorced, or why I should give them props for being honest about their martial status - I am not so polite anymore.

First, married men are not even on my radar as potential mates. So, until you are divorced, you are off limits to a girl like me. Second, even after your divorce, my experience tells me that you would not be ready for a serious relationship for at least a year. I'm looking for marriage, not a roll in the hay. I'm a girl who is worth more than that. Third, any guy who thinks it is okay to date other women when he is still married, even if separated, if not the type of man I'm looking for. Our core beliefs about love, relationships, loyalty, and marriage differ too much.

There is some switch in my head that doesn't make me even vaguely attracted to attached men (married, engaged, or in a relationship).  My friend went to lunch today in an area which is populated by a lot of soldiers.  She texted me, "So many soldiers, so little you."  But you know, if these men are in a relationship, no matter how hunkilious (and I do love me a military man) I just can't get turned on if they are not single.  Single eye candy = good.  Attached eye candy = not eye candy.