Pissed - If you are not physically attracted, don't ask them out!

About four 4 months ago, I was pretty severally harassed on this blog.  So much so, that I have toned down posting on it.  One particular harassment revolved around being down on a guy who actually liked the way I looked.  I replied that I didn't hate him because he was physically attracted to me, but rather, it was new to me and I kind of doubted it was true.  Which led to all sorts of follow up meanness.

The guy is question contacted me first on an online dating site.  He didn't know anything about me other than my abundance of photos and written profile.  He dated me not once, twice, or thrice, but close to 12 times before he told me he didn't feel chemistry.  I was confused because most people A) don't date someone they are not physically attracted to more than 3 times. B) His physical reactions to me belied that.

But, moving on.  He contacted me again a few months later asking to be friends.  He felt a strong intellectual attraction for me but didn't see us long term.  Okay, I get that.  He likes my personality but not my looks.  Once again he confused me by then promptly asking to be fuck buddies.  Ohhhhhhhhkaaaaay?!  Who asks someone to be fuck buddies they are not attracted to?  He must not dislike my looks that much.

Until a few days ago, when, he revealed he just wasn't physically attracted to me.  FTW?  We haven't had sex but have done everything but and only now you are telling me this.  I don't want to be fuck buddies and I sure as hell don't want to be fuck buddies with someone who finds me repugnant.   The kicker is, according to him, I'm perfect for him in everyway except he isn't attracted to me.  I'm fucking sick and tired of being told by men that I'm wonderful but because I'm ugly I'm not worth shit.  Yes, it happens all the time and I'm fucking sick of it.  Do you know how fucking devastating it is to tell a woman that - that her whole worth as a female is tied to her body and appearence?

But, the real reason I'm so pissed off is because, if looks are so damn important to you, why the hell do you contact a person in the first place if you are not attracted to them?  Just leave them the fuck alone and focus on people you are attracted to.  I guess I can't even trust that if a guy is talking to me, dating me, and fucking me, he likes the way I look now.